The other thing on my list to talk about this week was beauty related. Cheap stuff to buy to put on your face to make it look better. Junk like that. And you’ll probably still hear about it.
But I also had a conversation with my husband today that’s been on my mind, and it just seems so much more important to talk about than rose salve.
It turns out, we’ve both been feeling less than satisfied with our appearance lately, and sadly, feeling bad about the way we look can spill over into other areas of life, making us both feel generally unpleasant. I think it’s something that everybody struggles with. There’s the pressure from the media to have a certain body, or to always look flawless. And then there’s the flip side of feeling guilty for even caring about your appearance when you know there are so many people who don’t even have access to clean water or other basic needs. So why am I worried about my haircut? Jeezy creezy, I’m such a jerk.
So, you’d think I’m writing words and putting them on the internet, so I should have a solution. But I’m just a girl with a laptop and a big mouth. I don’t have all the answers.
What I do know is that if you walk around owning your look, owning your body and your hair and your clothes and all of it, if you walk around with your chin up and a smile on your face, that’s the only thing people will notice. Confidence is beauty. That’s all most people can see. The only ones who will criticize you are those people who are damaged by their own insecurity.
And if you have to fake it for a while, do it! People will react positively to you, which will boost your confidence until it’s real.
I’m not always able to do this. Probably most people aren’t, but I think it’s worth reminding ourselves. Everybody was born with a body that they struggle to love. Most of us wake up in the morning wishing there was something different about the way we look, even if everybody we know thinks we look great. What if we all just started at least pretending like we thought we looked awesome? No arrogance. Just confidence.
I’m going to give it a try. Fake it ’til you make it. If I love myself a little more, I can show more love to others, and that’s the whole reason we’re here.